Some Questions We Asked:
How did you first react to your husband’s ED?
I was your typical, what I thought was a very brave wife in saying, “Don’t worry about it…It’s not just your penis I’m in love with; I’m in love with you. And so whatever happens, it’s OK. We’re in this for life.”
Did he appreciate your reaction?
I say it’s the worst thing I could have done at that point because it sounded like I was saying, “Oh, that’s OK.” Very patronizing, very pitying. I think the last thing that a man wants to hear when it comes to erectile dysfunction from his partner is “Oh, it’s OK.” It will sound like “I don’t care,” “I really didn’t need it anyway.” He needed to hear the truth.
How did you begin talking about ED?
We talked about it at first in veiled language. For instance, “How are you really doing?” “Are you all right?” “Are you OK?” “You seem a little down.” And then, eventually, my husband said, “It’s just tearing me apart. I can’t live like this. This isn’t us. This can’t be over. We are growing apart.”
What you think he wants to hear may not be what he needs to hear.
About Sarah:
When Sarah’s husband, David, began to experience ED, she thought she was being supportive by constantly telling him “that’s OK.” But sometimes it isn’t OK to say “it’s OK.” talking about it was how they were able to come to a permanent solution with a penile implant. Check out these videos to find out how their lines of open communication ultimately led them to sexual satisfaction.
"It was almost like a fountain of youth for the male anatomy."
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